Happy Wedding Wednesday! A few weeks back, I had one of the best days I’ve had in a while. The event was John & I’s engagement party, which means in addition to our families really getting to spend time together, lovely decor, amazing food, a DIY mimosa bar and all around great environment…my friends from different stages of life were all together in the same place, dolled up in dresses and ready to celebrate! As we grow older, I think we can all admit that getting everyone together in one location is close to impossible, especially for those that live in different parts of the state, country and world. In honor of this celebration, to my bridesmaids and my closest gal pals who traveled many miles to attend, I’m shining light on the importance of female friendships and the impact they have on our lives. While each and every friendship is different, I have been blessed with some of the best lady friends a girl could ask for- so this one’s for them!
Some of my most impactful friendships today began forming at the young age of 15, where growing up, getting our first cars, taking our first vacations together (helllllo, Cabo), suffering through those long shifts at our first real job together, and learning just how much beer we can (and can’t handle) is just a small look into how we helped each other grown up in a quiet suburb town outside of San Francisco. Other friendships helped shape me into the woman I am today during college after leaving that small suburban town and moving to Santa Barbara at 18. Together, these friends helped me learn how to balance social life and studies, we embarked on countless adventures during college life in our sunny beach side homes in Isla Vista, (the not so glamorous but extremely fitting for any young adult) and general life lessons that occur in anyone’s young adult life. We felt empowered during those days, ready to see what stood outside that small college town by going on hikes, exploring Southern California, driving back home to The Bay Area together..not to mention all the late nights, early mornings, spending our dollars of cheap wine and maybe even a fancy meal every one in a while and ultimately moving up to San Francisco post Santa Barbara life. These friends got me through some of the hardest times in my life, and I am forever grateful for them as they help me celebrate and enjoy the most exciting time in my life- the marriage of my college love and all the wedding festivities that have already happened and are on the horizon.
With each passing year, the importance of these friendships and creating memories take precedent in my life. With two of my closest friends birthdays happening this past weekend, I couldn’t help but reflect on all the good, hard, absolutely ridiculous (in the best way) times that we have been through as we grow into our late twenties. With that, the more recent friendships that have come into my life are just as significant and impactful to me and my overall state of happiness. Many of these friends began as co-workers 2 years back and have blossomed into friendships through brunches, decorating each others desks for birthdays, after work happy hours, and of course the mere fact that I get to spend 40+ hours a week calling them more than co-workers. One of who will be standing next to me as I marry my best friend, and the other celebrating throughout the wedding festivities as well, so if that isn’t proof that truly significant friendships can be built in a few years, I don’t know what is!
All in all. no matter what your friendships are like, be sure to recognize the importance and power that these relationships hold. No one needs a 100 friends to get through life with, you just need the strong, meaningful friendships that support you, encourage you, and all around allows you to enjoy life together as friends. That’s the ultimate friendship squad goals!
Similar to everything in life,..romantic relationships, businesses, and heck even our house plants, friendships need maintaining. They need to be cared for, and often. We’ve all outgrown certain friendships over the years naturally, but for those you know you want to have in your life for many years to come- take care of them! Send those snail mail letters, bring them comfort and understanding through challenging times (we all need that), be willing to celebrate accomplishments, birthdays, engagements and so on with them, and of course…just be there! Some of the best friendships I have are the ones that come naturally. Friendships should never feel forced, and should always feel mutually beneficial. Most of all, keep those friends around that will drop anything they had planned and meet you for brunch at a moments notice, because what else do we have in this life than to be surrounded by loving people and great moments?! As the popular quote reads, friends are the family that we get to choose.
On a similar note of talented women who deserve a huge shout is San Francisco based event and family photographer, Jill Baker. Jill and I met via Instagram, had a coffee date and instantly connected through our mutual admiration of photography, comparing the Corgi dogs in our lives and realizing how exciting it would be to collaborate and capture John & I’s engagement party. The images above are one tiny preview of the gorgeous way Jill captures moments through her lens, so be sure to stay tuned as I share more of her work in the coming weeks. If anyone needs a sweet, down to earth and extremely talented photographer in the Bay Area, I recommend following along on Jill’s work (and her adorable son) through her Instagram and her Facebook. As promised, more to come soon!
Photography by Jill Baker